Six Ways to Make People Like You.  If you want people to like you…….

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in people.

“Do this and you will be welcomed anywhere.”

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

“Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering.”

When you show interest in others people will feel more comfortable talking to you but when you just show interest in yourself, people won’t want to talk to you for a long time. No one wants be just here someone talk about themselves, you have to show interest in there other person you’re having the conversation with. When your self-centered people won’t find any interest in you, a conversation is a two way thing you talk but you also have to listen to what others say. People like when you show an interest in them, it makes them feel more comfortable and want to open up to you more. Today with so much social media website people are preventing us from talking to someone face to face and we are so use to not talking to anyone face to face that we don’t know what to do when they are right in front of us. When we are in front of people having a conversation we need to show real interest.

Rule 2: Smile

“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”

“It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”

 A smile is the best feature that a person has, in my opinion. When you smile you make people feel warm and welcomed, they want to be around you. Whenever I meet someone new I always smile at them and they always smile back, it the first thing that someone notices about you. When you don’t smile people might not be sure if they want to talk to you, I get if you’re a shy person but you should still always show off your smile and make people feel welcomed. I always look at people and if they’re not smiling I always wonder how they look like smiling. If they happen to catch me looking at them I just smile at them and they smile back, and when I see them smiling I get happy because they look so friendly.  Your smile is such a beautiful thing it would be greedy to keep it to yourself.

Rule 3: Remember Names

“A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

“If you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble.”

Remembering names is very important especially as an adult. When you go to an interview it is important that you remember the name of the person who is interviewing you. Also it is going to look bad if you have a job and you don’t even know the name of your boss or coworkers. When you don’t remember names it makes people think that you have no interest with them and that talks bad about you. You can remember names by connecting it to something in your daily life. You can also write the name down somewhere where you will see it frequently. If you meet someone new you have to remember their names especially if you are going to see them again. When you met someone new and you forget their names they think that you don’t want to be their friends. Also not remembering names make it look like you’re a self-centered person and people don’t like a self-centered person, why would they want to be around someone like that?

How to remember names:

1.    Focus on the other person.

2.    Ask a question.

3.    Create an image or association of the person with the name.

4.    End the conversation by using his or hers names again.

5.    Keep a name file.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”

‘’Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his problems that he is in you or your problems.”

Sometimes it’s better to sit back and listen to what others talk about. Sometimes people have many problems going on in their mind but they don’t see anyone that they can talk too, it’s good to notice when someone needs an ear to listen. When people talk about their problems to you, you get to know the person better and understand their situation. Also who knows if you might be going through the same thing they are you won’t know unless you ask. When talking about their problems people see things clearer and also you can give them advice on how to get through their problem or hard time. I think that when you sit and listen to someone’s problem you build a good relationship with them. People like it when they are able to talk about themselves, they feel like you genuinely care about them and they become more interested in you. It also helps them gain confidence and open up to others as well.

 Active Listening Tips:

1.    Stay Focused

2.    Really Listen

3.    Allow for Periods of Silence

4.    From time to time repeat what the other person has said

5.    Understand the emotion behind the words

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man’s interest.

“The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”

Talking about others interest is important when having a conversation with a person. When you talk about only you and the things that you are interested in, the conversation will not get so far the person will get tired of only hearing about you.  When you talk about the interests of the other person the conversation will go on for much longer and you will get to know the person so much better than you would only talking about yourself. When you sit back and just listen to what others say and like you learn new things and hear about other people’s experiences in their life. You never know what you can learn from sitting back and just listen to what other thinks and the way they see things. I like listening to others perspectives and ideas because my mind becomes more open to other views and possibilities. People like it when others listen to their stories and their interest. So next time that you’re having a conversation with someone makes sure that you talk about them and listen to their stories.

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.

“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.”-John Dewey

“Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic.”

People like to feel important, everyone does. When you make someone feel important they feel how much you appreciate them and they know that you care. Just siting and listening to what other has to say makes people feel important because you’re showing them that you care enough to listen. People like talking about themselves and feeling that someone cares about them and that they want to hear what they have to say. When you make other feel important they feel good about themselves and they appreciate that you are making them feel that way. You will be able to make lots of friends and have them like you because they know that you care about them.

Ways to make people feel important;

1.    Listen while the other is talking

2.    Start a conversation with “it’s amazing how you….”

3.    Tell them you believe in them and why

4.    Encourage them to go for new thing they want

5.    Give them your time

6.    See the potential in them

7.    Tell them some secret to show that you trust and value them

8.    Enjoy a day out with them

9.    Include them in your life and events

10.                       Ask them to share something personal with you

11.                       Ask them if they need your help

12.                       Share your dreams with them

13.                       Comfort them

14.                       Give them gifts (no need for big one)

15.                       If you haven’t seen each other ask to get  together

16.                       Let them know that you’re interested in them

17.                       Tell them to make a difference

18.                       Take interest in THEIR hobbies

19.                       Give them credit for their work

20.                       Help them with their dreams

Reflection:  All of these rules seem to me like a good way to make friends. I think that if everyone applied these six rules to their lives they would make friends like a piece of cake. My favorite rule would definitely have to be SMILE. Smile is my favorite rule because I think that a smile is a person’s best feature and when they smile to a person you can tell a lot about that person and you can see how nice they are. It’s important to show people your smile whenever you first met someone so that they can feel more comfortable with you. Another rule that I like a lot is Be a Good Listener, I like this rule because how else are you supposed to get to really know a person if you don’t listen to what they are saying. Listening is a very important thing to do if you want to make friends because not a lot of people are going to like you is you never listen to them. Being a good friend means just sitting down and listening to what the other person has to tell you because sometimes that is all that they need. Although those are my favorite rules they are all equally important to fallow in the process of making friends.