Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Dale Carnegie

Technique 1: Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.

“If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.”

It’s not nice having someone criticizing everything that you do, who like’s that, no body. Complaining doesn’t help either. You never know how much someone has worked for something even if it’s something small, and when we criticize or complain about it all we do is hurt those people’s feelings. Condemning people for the things they have worked for is not good you hurt those people’s feeling and you’re not helping yourself either. Who is going to want to be friends with someone who is always condemning, complaining and criticizing them and others? Well no one, apart from being disliked no will ever want to help you if you ever need it because all they are going to think about is your bad attitude and nobody is going to want to be around that. This is why it’s better to tell people that they did a great job and that their hard work paid off. You will make that person feel good about them and people are going to like you because you’re not someone who is condemning them all the time. Only we know how hard we worked for something and to have someone give bad criticism and condemn us about our work without them knowing how hard we worked for it, does not feel good.

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation.

“The big secret in dealing with people”

I think that it is always better be strait up when you don’t like someone because having to pretend that you like the person and faking being a good friend will always end up badly. Also it’s very likely that you will make the person feel bad knowing that you were just pretending to be their friend. It never feels good when someone we think we can call a friend turns out to just be pretending to be your friend. A person feels good about themselves when someone truly cares and appreciates them. Just think that you found out that someone you thought was your friend turned out to not like you and they didn’t even want to be your friend. We all have people who appreciate us and we will always have people who don’t but I think that those people who don’t are not important. More than anything I feel bad for those people because maybe they’re just jealous that you have people in your life who truly appreciate you and care for you. I feel bad for these people because they’re probably surrounded by fallacious people and they are jealous when they see honest appreciation being shown to someone. I always show someone my true appreciation; I show them that I honestly care for them. If I ever run across someone that I don’t like I just stay away from them because I don’t want to have to act like I like them and then go and say that I don’t. 

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.

“”He who can do this has the whole world with him. He, who cannot, walks a lonely way.”

I think that this quote when applied to life can indeed help you go very far because when you make other people eager about wanted to do something with their lives the appreciation that that person will have to you is the best reward. When we motivate people we help them see the great things that they can achieve in their lives as well as how good of a person they can be. Many people just need some encouragement to get themselves going because sometimes they don’t think that they can do something but as soon as someone gets them excited and motivated there is nothing that can stop them. It’s good to help people out when they need a little push in life because you never know when you’re going to need a push yourself. I like motivating people because I like to see that energy they get and that determination in their eye. There are people who only like to drag people down but these people aren’t going to get anywhere doing things like that.